Updated: Jan 31
As I delve deeper into the experiences of shame that I have encountered, I am struck by the peculiar nature of it all. Recently, I found myself in situations where I was shamed for promoting the principles of collective compassion and kindness. It is a strange sensation to be met with derision for advocating for such noble ideals. However, upon reflection, I am not ashamed. I am confident in the intent behind my words and the respect and kindness with which they were delivered. I stand by my beliefs and will not be deterred by those who would seek to diminish them.
It is a regrettable strategy that is frequently employed in circles advocating for social justice, workplace environments, and personal interactions. Its utilization breeds an atmosphere of negativity, and if unchecked, can lead to devastating outcomes in relationships.
Today, after much introspection and careful consideration, I made the choice to embrace self-compassion and safeguard my well-being by blocking the individual who had been tormenting me.
It was a difficult decision to make, but I know that it's important to prioritize my own well-being and not allow anyone to treat me with disrespect or negativity. Practicing self-compassion and setting boundaries with toxic individuals is a key aspect of self-care and personal growth. By taking this step, I am taking control of my own emotions and mental health, and allowing myself to focus on positive relationships and growth.
As I ponder the nature of this woman's being, I cannot help but admire her intelligence and bravery. Yet, I find myself musing over the events and circumstances that may have molded her into the person she is today, one who so frequently employs communication that causes pain and suffering. I understand that these are questions that only she can answer, not I.
As I reflect on this experience, I am struck by the pervasiveness of psychological bullying. It is disheartening to see so many individuals standing idly by, watching as someone is subjected to cruel and hurtful behavior. This is a testament to the conformity that is prized in our society, where it is safer to align with the majority rather than challenge the status quo.
Though I have faced this kind of treatment throughout my life, it never gets any easier. The pain and trauma still linger. However, I have learned to navigate these challenges with greater resilience and self-awareness. My greatest takeaway from this experience is the importance of setting clear boundaries and practicing self-care.
And despite it all, I persist. Every instance of cruelty only fuels my fire to keep advocating, to keep pushing for change. My passion for this cause is like a thirst that cannot be quenched, no matter how many times I am knocked down. Each blow only strengthens my resolve to use my voice and my actions to shape a better future. I have transformed the pain into motivation, a driving force that fuels my quest for a kinder, more just world.
This emotion, shame, should not be used as a tool for promoting change and transforming systems. It creates harm, undermines relationships, and ultimately hinders progress towards a better world. Instead, we must cultivate empathy, kindness, and compassion as we work towards creating a just and equitable society.