What is marriage? Everyone has there own unique understanding and expectations of marriage that are developed and imprinted on us by society, our family, previous marriages and so on.
You know that I don’t really do the status quo and marriage to me seems like the epitome of status quo. However, I am not interested in doing things differently just for the sake of being different either.
I want you to know how I see marriage before we make a shared agreement to extend our relationship in this way.
I do not see marriage as conformity or an excuse for conformity. I don’t see it as a way to be like the Jone’s. I don’t see it as stating some form of explicit or implicit worth. In a marriage we are two seperate spiritual beings that are willingly and intentionally merging our souls for the betterment of one another.
I do not see marriage as a way to gain control or power. A marriage is comprised of two humans who have complete autonomy of their desires and their actions. I envision the power dynamic is fluid and natural in a healthy marriage, their is no need to tell each other what we can and can’t do in our words, our actions, or our inactions.
We instead communicate honestly and authentically. We recognize that what hurts your soul will hurt my soul and what hurts my sould will hurt yours, it is a marriage of souls. I beleive that a marriage of souls is the ultimate goal of this life on earth. I beleive that it is our mission as humans. I beleive that true love is this type of reciprocal compassion, it is alchemy.
Marrige to me is not about complancency, I do not expect marriage to be easy, I accept it as a challenging odyssey and in the challenges we will grow seperately and together. I do not see marraige as security, we don’t get to stop trying because we are connected by a couple signatures.
It is ultimately about spiritual growth and alignment with our true Selves. A marriage of souls is a committment to a voyage that begins every day a new, it is a committment and curiosity to the wonders of alchemy.